Posts tagged ‘help’

July 22, 2013

Psychology of a Hot Mess, Part 1

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Yep, that’s me alright. At least the “mess” part. Oh, the frustration my loved ones and innocent bystanders must deal with when I’m left to my own devices. If you happen upon me while I’m on the move (which is most of the time), I appear to be in control and with purpose. But let me linger for a while, and my true colors come trickling out. I’m a very free spirit who is organizationally challenged.

butterfly free spirit

This dysfunction extends from my time management skills to the clutter that surrounds me. If I try to impose a schedule or list on myself, an even deeper part of me rails wildly against it. I hate structure, but apparently I need it. Sometimes I manage to march to the beat of other people’s drums. Most of the time, however, my best intentions are left trailing behind me as I rush to the next thing, late and flustered again. And the sad part is that no matter how bright things seem to be, my guilt and self-recrimination are ever-present and heavy.

Budda time

Friends, that’s no way to live! Surely I’m not the only one who struggles with the mysteries and frustrations of time, clutter, and accomplishing goals. So, I’m doing things a little differently these days, and perhaps some of my discoveries will help you too!

A New Perception of Time

I recently found a great blog that stopped me in my tracks. The post described people as being either monochronic or polychronic in the way they perceive and manage time. A monochrone is someone who sees time as linear and absolute, is usually very punctual, is more task-oriented than relationship-oriented, and often focuses on only one thing at a time. Monochrones are the splendid folks you see actually getting things done (in an orderly fashion) who are banging their head against the wall as they wait for the polychrone to finish something . . . anything!

late girl

Is this you?

Then there’s the polychrone, someone for whom time is not linear but cyclical and fluid. These people tend to work on many things at once, are easily distracted, and are often late. On the flip side, polychrones are fabulous at handling change, switching gears, and cultivating strong relationships. Time means very different things to these two individuals, and as you can imagine, they often make each other crazy. If you are a polychrone trying to navigate in our monochronic world, there’s hope! Here are a few tips I can’t wait to try out:

1. Stop Thing #1 before beginning Thing #2: This seems like common sense, doesn’t it? But what blew my mind here was that the tardiness of polychronic people is not an inability to begin or arrive at Thing #2 but instead a difficulty with stopping Thing #1. (Stop and ponder that for a second.) While monochrones are adept at finishing a task or ending a social interaction in a timely manner, polychrones find endings uncomfortable and difficult. I always thought I was imagining this, but nope, it’s a real sensation.

SOLUTION: Rehearse your exit plan before arriving anywhere—what you will say to others when it’s time to leave or what time you need to pack up to leave before you absolutely must be gone.

 

2. Plan your schedule backward from appointments: This suggestion is also a new one for me. Polychronic people tend to think of time idealistically instead of realistically, imagining the best-case scenario instead of all the possible pitfalls.

SOLUTION: So, if you have a lunch date at 11:30, figure out going backward how long it will take you to get to the restaurant—if there’s traffic or a wreck. Then, how long will it take you to gather your belongings to get in the car? What about a trip to the restroom to touch up your lipstick? See what I’m getting at? Just a new way of thinking.

 

3. Set audible alarms or reminders to transition to the next task: This suggestion is a good one, though not foolproof. I’ve heard recommendations to set multiple reminders leading up to the time you absolutely, positively must jet, but if you are anything like me, I have so many reminders on my calendar dinging at me that they sometimes melt into white noise.

SOLUTION: Prioritize those noisy alarms and abide by them religiously. Also, if you have a trusted monochrone friend who you are meeting, you might ask him or her to (kindly) text or call you if you are even 2 minutes past time. To avoid possible lateness, you might even ask her to text you when she’s on her way to meet you (a built-in reminder!).

reality check

I’m feeling really excited about trying out these new ideas. I’m sure the people in my life are cautiously hopeful as well. And if you have any solutions that have helped you be an awesome time wizard, I’d love to hear them. In the meantime, good luck and I’ll be clearing out my home office—my husband is still stunned. 🙂 Catch you next week!

Brooke

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February 20, 2013

CHARACTER BUILDING

Powerful words to encourage a HEALTHY lifestyle!

Powerful words to encourage a HEALTHY lifestyle!

Hey Everyone!

It’s your Feb 2013 HH of the month Lacey Pruett!

This weekend, I participated in a leadership conference for a nutritional supplement company but left with much more than renewed leadership skills. Little did I know that by surrounding myself with like-minded people, discussing something we are all passionate about, would lead me to tears. The key-note speaker was former President George W. Bush. No matter your political affiliation, it’s pretty cool to listen to a former leader of America. What does he have to contribute to an arena filled with nutritional supplement advisors? Character building during tough times and strategic decision making.

Former President George W. Bush speaking at the conference

Former President George W. Bush

It’s seems that everyone in America wants to be healthy, fit, and improve their life in some way. People spend hours researching the latest diet fads promising pounds that melt away, purchasing latest energy drink promising superstar powers, and coercing prescriptions from their doctors that promise effortless weight loss success and anxiety elimination. Despite the adverse affects to their bodies, people want quick results with minimal investment. Even better–no exercise necessary is ideal. America doesn’t have time to workout. Nor do we care to prepare appropriately nourishing meals. This is why obesity–even worse, childhood obesity–is on the rise in our country. Kudos to our current First Lady for her efforts with the Let’s Move! program. We need to do more to grow awareness that fitness is fun! This is why I love the Healthy Housewives–I support ambassadors for healthy living, and in my opinion, we need more.

First Lady Michelle Obama's campaign Let's Move!

First Lady Michelle Obama’s campaign Let’s Move!

So when George W. Bush commented about the reaction of the American people when he had to make some difficult decisions, it made me sad. We never know where a person is coming from, and seldom do we have the entire story. Yet we are quick to judge, quick to criticize, and quick to turn negative against something or someone. When he counseled us to know what we believe in and what our core values are and to never waiver, I teared up again. I recalled several situations as I began working in the fitness and wellness industry where my core values were tested and judgement almost shook me off balance. People are quick to criticize things they fear, and I think new routines, new diets, new goals are scary changes for some people, and some cope by finding reasons to not get healthier. When I was tested, I ran hard to those in my life whom I trusted and who served as personal advisors to me. Thankfully, I got back on track quickly because fitness enthusiasts have lots of work to do.

Figuring out where to start can be hard.

Figuring out where to start can be hard.

Convincing others that in order to become a better person, spouse, sibling, parent, employee, one needs to prioritize their health and wellness is no easy task. People are quick with excuses and despair. I teared up again as the former President spoke about how our nation must do a better job with identifying and treating mental illnesses. Our nation is grief-stricken by citizens under the influence of drugs (over-the-counter, legal, and illegal) and alcohol taking innocent lives, hurting others, or hindering their own well-being. Mental wellness needs to be a part of overall wellness efforts. You read correctly! Not only am I going to encourage you to exercise, nourish yourself appropriately, and include high-quality supplements into your daily regime, but I want you to find time for daily (mini, if need be) retreats to clear your mind, de-stress, and center yourself on peace and clarity. Go for a walk; hide in a quiet room, closet, or other area for a few minutes; take a drive and listen to calming music; even better, stare out a window in silence and absorb the beauty around us. Somedays all you have is five minutes at a time, but perhaps other days you can practice yoga, swimming, or other calming activities. I wonder how different society would be if we all meditated regularly.

People ask me why I spend the money and time to supplement, eat, and exercise the way I do. It’s so I don’t have to spend the money later on doctor’s visits, hospital stays, medication, and surgeries. Our bodies are magical machines when given proper care and concern. The truth is, it only takes a small amount of time and energy each day to maintain proper health. Subtle changes lead to great successes! If you care for your body, it’ll perform optimally for longer periods of time. Who doesn’t want to look, feel, and perform optimally? At under $5 a day, I’m able to ensure the highest quality nutrition for my body. With an hour of activity time six days a week, I maintain a fit and fun lifestyle. Investing in and prioritizing my health and wellness is one of my core values, and I’ll take former President Bush’s advice and never stray, apologize, or make excuses for it–even when I’m criticized.

Thanks for reading my blog,
Lacey Pruett

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