Posts tagged ‘confidence’

April 30, 2013

Be unique…

My youngest daughter Bianca is what one might call a free spirit. She is not into all the same things other kids her age are into. Her favorite movies are Jurassic Park, Harry Potter, and Tremors. She loves playing with toy dinosaurs and paper clips. Her version of matching is not matching, and she loves collecting any random piece of anything she can get her hand on. There have been times where she has wore her bathrobe to the grocery store or wore winter boots with her bathing suit. And here is the kicker…I let her. 

As parents, its so easy for us to think that our children have to fit into a certain mold. That little girls like ballet and butterflies and should wear ribbons in their hair. But when I realized that was not who my Bianca wanted to be, I realized, there is no mold to fit in. Everyone is unique, everyone is special, and we should honor those differences and celebrate them. If everyone of us were the same, oh what a boring planet this would be. 

I want you to think about yourself for a second…are you different? Of course you are. Something makes you special and unique and different than everyone else. There is a quality about you that cannot be duplicated. YOU make the world a better place simply for being a part of it. 

We live in a society where you are supposed to want to fit in, look like everyone else, be like everyone else…but WHY? Be YOU! YOU are special, YOU are unique….you like plastic dinosaurs instead of Barbie dolls and that is okay.

Today, instead of wondering what you could do to look like someone else, be like someone else, act like someone else, I want you to celebrate your unique qualities that separate you from the pack. Dance in the rain, sing in the shower, live out loud, color outside the lines….because being YOU is the best thing that you can do. I like you for who you are…the question is, do you like you for who you are?Image

April 23, 2013

The Man in the Mirror

ImageRemember that Michael Jackson song, Man in the Mirror?

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change

Gosh, more words couldn’t ring any truer. So much of what we need to make happen in our lives starts with the fact that we need to take a look at ourselves. I hear from people all the time they aren’t achieving the results they want. They say they eat right, work out hard, and yet nothing. I truly believe that physical transformation cannot even begin to take place until you are able to look at your reflection in the mirror with love. 

So many of us look in the mirror and see fear, doubt, disgust. We don’t look in the mirror and love ourselves for our flaws, our imperfections. But that is where it must start. You can run until your feet fall off, but you will not get the body you desire if you are filled with self-hatred. So how do you begin to love yourself enough to take a good long stare into the mirror?

1. Realize there is no such thing as perfect

2. You can only look like the best YOU possible….not someone else

3. There is no ideal way to look

4. Notice all the people around you who love you, they do so for a reason

5. Remember that you are special and unique and therefore important

I promise you this is the key to success. No amount of hours in the gym can replace the importance of self love in your journey to a fit lifestyle. 

 

March 25, 2013

What a woman should look like…..

So, I have learned to grow very thick skin since I entered the fitness world and the world of social media. You may be wondering why…and the answer is pretty simple…MEAN PEOPLE SUCK! 

According to the people on social media who hide behind their anime profile picture, women should not have muscles. Or abs. Or workout often. Or eat healthy. Or do anything but have children, have curves, and hips, and thighs, and eat and cook solid good down home food!

So, what is the lesson here? The lesson is that there is no one way a woman should look. A woman, or man for that matter, can be or do anything they want to….and for me, that happens to include a training regimen that leaves me with a six pack. Does this make me any less of a woman? Does it revoke my ability to wear a dress? Of course not. 

I want you to look in the mirror every day and love yourself. I want you to look in the mirror and think, I am beautiful, and smart, and talented. I want you to be able to brush off anyone who tries to bring you down, because you are confident enough in your own skin to know that anything negative anyone has to say to you simply isn’t true. 

I want you to know that one size does not fit all and that you don’t have to look like me, or any of the other Healthy Housewives. Our role is simply to inspire you and motivate you to be the best person you can be inside and out. We want to share with you what works for us in hopes that you will find something that works for you. 

So, what should a woman look like? 

Whatever you see in the mirror each day with love in your heart. Image