Posts tagged ‘body image’

April 2, 2013

Sugar or Salad?

I often get asked how come I don’t compete in fitness competitions. And for me, I have a few set reasons, but one resonates a little stronger than the rest. There is nothing wrong with fitness competitions, at all, but for me, and my life, its just not something that fits in. Let me tell you one of the main reasons which directly relates to my children and to the purpose of this article.

I am raising two daughters. I want them to have a healthy view point on fitness. I worry that because I am so into fitness that I will do one of two things…either push them towards donuts and pizza or give them a false sense that they need to be perfect. Let me start by talking about the first option….they resent health and fitness.

I try to maintain balance. Yes, we eat healthy. But every Friday we do donut Friday. This is a tradition where I take them to the donut shoppe before school. Why? I don’t eat donuts, and they are so unhealthy. But I want my girls to know moderation. That yes, nine times out of ten we are eating whole foods that fuel our body, but that it is okay to enjoy a treat. I want them to know moderation and to be able to make good choices as they grow up. In turn, my youngest daughter orders salad every time we eat out and my oldest daughter drinks nothing but water. I don’t want to deprive them of fun foods because there is the risk that when left to their own choices they will eat unhealthy on purpose.

Then there is the other end of the spectrum. I work out because I love it. Truly. Its my hobby in addition to my career. I don’t scrapbook, or bake, or garden…I train. I don’t do it because I feel I need to look a certain way or weigh a certain weight. My body is merely a by product of my love for working out. But, I worry. I don’t want my girls to feel like they have to be perfect. I don’t want them checking calories or flipping out if they see a little baby fat on their bodies. I want them to love themselves, and love the way physical activity makes their body feel. In a day and age where the media does such a good job of showcasing the “perfect” female body there are so many body issues amongst young girls that I don’t need to paint that picture at home for them as well.

So, what’s the moral of the story? Your children are watching you. No matter what you say, they do what they see, and so its crucial that you provide balance and guidance in paving the path of a healthy lifestyle for them. Train because you enjoy it. Eat foods that fuel your body and enjoy treats within moderation. Image

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March 25, 2013

What a woman should look like…..

So, I have learned to grow very thick skin since I entered the fitness world and the world of social media. You may be wondering why…and the answer is pretty simple…MEAN PEOPLE SUCK! 

According to the people on social media who hide behind their anime profile picture, women should not have muscles. Or abs. Or workout often. Or eat healthy. Or do anything but have children, have curves, and hips, and thighs, and eat and cook solid good down home food!

So, what is the lesson here? The lesson is that there is no one way a woman should look. A woman, or man for that matter, can be or do anything they want to….and for me, that happens to include a training regimen that leaves me with a six pack. Does this make me any less of a woman? Does it revoke my ability to wear a dress? Of course not. 

I want you to look in the mirror every day and love yourself. I want you to look in the mirror and think, I am beautiful, and smart, and talented. I want you to be able to brush off anyone who tries to bring you down, because you are confident enough in your own skin to know that anything negative anyone has to say to you simply isn’t true. 

I want you to know that one size does not fit all and that you don’t have to look like me, or any of the other Healthy Housewives. Our role is simply to inspire you and motivate you to be the best person you can be inside and out. We want to share with you what works for us in hopes that you will find something that works for you. 

So, what should a woman look like? 

Whatever you see in the mirror each day with love in your heart. Image